Plus, he’s chasing you so he must be trying to win you over… That is, until you suggest things like meeting your parents or you talk about your future together or even what you want from the relationship.That’s when he pulls away, emotionally withdraws and starts flaking. ” He comes up with excuses for why he either doesn’t want to talk about it, or he just gives you excuses for why he doesn’t want *that* kind of relationship with you.
Men and Relationships: 5 Signs He’ll Never Commit When she came to me with her story, it was so odd to me. As I dug deeper into her problem, I learned he had just had a terrible divorce before he met her, and he was afraid of committing to her because he didn’t want to risk their relationship ending the same way his last marriage did. He is afraid of revealing his inner-most, vulnerable, hidden self to you and getting hurt after exposing this kind of vulnerability.
Some men are afraid of getting close to a woman intimately. Trying to force him to make that intimate connection with you will only force him to emotionally withdraw from you and become distant.
The typical scenario where a woman will label a guy a “commitment phobe” is when he’s been seeing a girl for a while – they spend the majority of their time together, they eat together, they sleep together and so forth…he won’t commit in an official sense. For most guys, he won’t catch feelings for the girl as long as he never looks to her for emotional support.
That’s usually when they’ll come to me looking for answers. First, I can tell you right off the bat that he’s not a “commitment-phobe.” That term was invented by some psychologist to diagnose .0001% of the population for a very specific, extreme condition. Most likely scenario: The placeholder relationship. Once a guy starts leaning on a girl emotionally, he starts becoming attached to her on an emotional level.
So now we’re at this point: Girl has poured months or of love and obsession into this guy, hoping he’ll one day come around.