When things didn’t work out, I was sad, but I was relieved to know that the “rebounding” part of my post-divorce dating life was over and that now I could go find my next true love.The next woman I dated was a rebound, too, as was the woman I would eventually commit to a serious relationship with.I looked forward to the freedom associated with single life.
Rebounding isn’t something that happens once with a single partner; it’s an emotional state that a grieving person undergoes after a break-up, and there isn’t a limit on how long that grieving takes, nor are there fool-proof steps to get through the grief faster.◊♦◊We all have our own selfish reasons for leaving our partners, just as we sometimes have our own selfish reasons for staying.
Even after the ugliest of break-ups, we grieve that our ex finds the right partner.
The fact that they were wrong for us doesn’t mean they deserve to be alone and miserable for the rest of their life.
your ex with their next partner (which you will, thanks to the pervasiveness of social media), it’s hard not to take it personally, especially if you’re still in that emotional “rebounding” state while they appear to have moved on.
You don’t know the whole story of their life after you, and you have no business knowing, anyway.